The Illusion of Being in Control

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Bozhidar Donchev
Bozhidar Donchev

Control is often a substitute for clarity.

Many leaders believe they’re maintaining control… but what they’re really doing is compensating for missing clarity.

When priorities, responsibilities, or expectations are unclear, leaders naturally start to monitor everything more closely. It looks like micromanagement from the outside, but on the inside it’s usually something different:

a protective response to uncertainty.


Micromanagement Isn’t Always About Trust

While it’s easy to say “the leader doesn’t trust their team,” the truth is usually more nuanced:

  • They don’t trust the process, not the people.

  • They aren’t sure what outcome they’re expecting.

  • They don’t know what good looks like yet.

  • They haven’t defined boundaries or ownership clearly.

When clarity is missing, control becomes the default.

Not because leaders want to interfere — but because they’re trying to reduce the anxiety that comes from ambiguity.


Clarity Makes Control Unnecessary

When leaders define:

  • the goal

  • the path

  • the owner

  • and the finish line

…they don’t need to hover. The work moves without them. The team becomes confident. And decision-making speeds up.

Clarity isn’t just about communication — it replaces the need for control.


The Real Question for Leaders

If you often feel the urge to check, re-check, correct, or step in, ask yourself:

Do I need more control — or do I need more clarity?

Most of the time, the answer is clarity.


Final Thought

Micromanagement is rarely a personality flaw. It’s usually a system flaw.

When clarity increases, control naturally relaxes. When teams know exactly what success looks like, the leader can finally step back.

And that shift — from control to clarity — is where real leadership begins.